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Julie's avatar

Of course uncertainty is a big issue (once you've passed the denial phase).

Not only for the general issues mentioned, but also in very practical and concrete questions, that can be different for many patients.

For instance, at the moment I'm considering buying a new home. I'm looking for a house that I should be able to live in for some time, but I have no idea how my disability wil evolve. I don't know how much longer I will be able to work, so I don't know how much I can afford.

On a smaller scale: I want to meet with a friend, but I don't know how my fatigue will be. I don't want to make her come just for half an hour, but if I exhaust myself, I won't be functioning the next few days and my husband will have to do everything (for the x-th time).

These kind of things are just not something a neuro/nurse or any other third party can really help with. It's just an additional burden of having MS.

For a lot of the questions mentioned, I feel neuros evidently have a responsability to inform pwMS as best as possible. But they cannot offer certainty where there is none. Nor should they.

I get that neuros want to help, but I don't see how it's possible for neuros to solve 'the problem of uncertainty'?

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MumP's avatar

Closed leading questions aren’t really that helpful other than a broad sense of what areas concern patients more - I wonder what people without MS would answer for some of them that are generic life questions like planning for the future ?!

MS is such a variable illness affecting people at different ages and with different intensities plus each individual has their own outlook, personality, support system and own specific vulnerabilities.

I think it would be much better if HCPs just asked about fears and hopes and how they could support the pwMS on a spiritual, psychological and practical level. But they don’t seem to have any time. Despite being diagnosed very young, no one professional has ever asked my son about his emotions, if he is scared or confused about what’s happening to him or how they could support him with that. I was astounded how his psychological health was of entirely no interest to anyone.

I work in palliative care and have often thought a palliative approach would be useful even at the start of an MS diagnosis. Holistic care, advance care planning discussions, support for the family and carers and a hope for the best but plan for the worst parallel planning concept.

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